How to remove toxic relationships
Took 35 years to learn
It happens to all of us on a daily basis. We have few people in life, either friend or relative, who we count as close ones, disappoint us by being toxic. They will remind you the most embarrassing moments of your life. They will make deliberate comments to hurt you in the package of caring for you.
I always have been easy to those kinds of people. In my mid 20s, just after college, I left my home country and came to the USA for graduate school. A lot of my relatives were packaging their “fake” concern about how my parents will stay all by themselves. A many of those kind of fake concerns about me have been floated and time cured all, but my annoyance towards those mean people.
Now come friends. We have friends from high school, College, University and so on. I barley count collogues as friends. Some friends repeatedly create and “distribute” gossip about you, and some remind you about your 20-year-old stupid moments every time they see you.
So how do you avoid unpleasantness of these toxic relationships? Easy answer is to ignore them. But sometimes it’s unavoidable. So, what should we do? I prefer to give them signal of my disgust through body language and limit my conversation with them, if we end up being in a social setting. Many times, it works, but I remain careful not to be provocative. If done well, they kind of sense the distance and try to keep it far from you. You can’t stop those people from shitting, but you can stop most of them from shitting in your backyard. I think that’s a win!